Temple Jeremiah

 

Shabbat Balak

Dear friends,

Like many of you, I have adult children who I have treasured from the moment they were born. As younger girls growing up together, I must say that they were almost always on the “same page,” sharing a common perspective. Now, as adults with spouses and children of their own, their perspectives, understandably, may differ. I, the ‘mama bear,’ do my best to keep everyone content and peaceful, but to my dismay, I am not always be successful. I read a commentary by Cantor Ellen Dreskin and it so spoke to me that I would like to share it now with you.

Mah tovu ohalecha Yaakov, mishk’notecha Yisrael, “how good are your tents, O Jacob, your dwellings, O Israel” (Numbers 24:5). These words are sung at the beginning of a morning service – the words of Balaam, a wicked sorcerer hired by Balak, the king of Moab, to curse the Israelites as they pass through his kingdom on their way to Canaan.

But it just isn’t happening. Balaam opens his mouth and what comes out? Not a curse, but a blessing. One line from the mouth of a non-Israelite magic maker, and several thousand years later, we’re still singing it every morning.

Why? Perhaps, as Cantor Dreskin explains, it is because these simple words emphasize the blessing of each individual’s unique role in our community, the blessing that is contained in every aspect of our own personalities, and our obligation to attempt to speak blessings and be a blessing at every moment of our lives.

As we take a closer look at this week’s parasha, Balak, the verse appears repetitive. Aren’t ‘tents’ and ‘dwellings’ pretty close in definition? And aren’t ‘Jacob’ and ‘Israel’ the same person?

Maybe, and maybe not.

Tents, we know, are temporary shelters. Jacob, a name that comes from the Hebrew word for “follower” or “heel,” arrived in this world literally hanging onto the heel of his twin brother, Esau. While his brother hunted game, domesticated Jacob was content to stay home and cook the stew. He was definitely quite comfortable in a tent.

But that’s Jacob. Israel is something – or someone – else. Israel, the name that Jacob receives following an all-night wrestling match with some sort of angel, literally means “he will struggle with God.” Israel is not a follower, but a leader – and leadership most often involves challenge and, sometimes, struggle. Leadership happens in situations and times where we really dwell, in the homes with the people we love, at the workplace with the people we consider friends and colleagues, places where there is really something at stake. Israel dwells in and thrives through challenging the big questions and, sometimes, injustices that may exist within our family, our community, or injustices of the greater world.

Some of us spend our days or lives as tenders of the home or workers behind the scenes, taking on a quieter role, but one that requires a specific strength. Some of us, at certain times, however, are more inclined to be wrestlers, dwelling in those places that require, perhaps, a more outward strength.

Every family, every community, and the entire world benefit from both the Jacobs and the Israels – the capacity for both is within each of us. Just think about the different roles our family members take on or our co-workers embody. Truly, it would not be productive if we were all “Israels,” wrestlers or all “Jacobs” at the same time. We need to acknowledge that both are good. That realization is the blessing that Balaam bestowed upon us.

A number of years ago, I received a sweet gift – a T-shirt that read, It’s All Good. That was, and continues to be, my mantra during tumultuous times as well as those blessed, peaceful moments. It’s all good: each day, whether we step into the role of follower or leader, whether we are close to home or further away; whether our mind is tranquil or we are dwelling in a space of true wrestling, ready to take on a necessary challenge, it’s all good.

Each of us has days of “Jacob-ness,” as well as days of “Israel-ness.” Some people spend their lives entirely in one world or the other, and that should be ok. Let’s acknowledge the unique contributions of the day, gifts brought by each and every member of our family and community. No matter who we are, blessings can and must emerge from our lives as well as our lips – a message that we, as parents, hope to pass on to our children, young and old. If the wicked sorcerer Balaam could do it, Mah tovu, then so can we. Just think of the sense of Shalom Bayit that would come as a beautiful consequence of such an acknowledgement. Wishing you and your families, a peaceful, loving Shabbat.

Anne Lidsky, Ph.D., RJE

About Anne Lidsky, Ph.D., RJE

Dr. Anne Lidsky, R.J.E., has served as Director of Religious Education at Temple Jeremiah since 1980. Anne received her Bachelors and Masters degrees from Northeastern Illinois State University and her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Northwestern University. She taught in Chicago for several years and was a religious and Hebrew teacher for twelve years at Temple Emanuel and Am Shalom. Anne was principal at Temple Beth Israel and Director of Counseling at Solomon Schechter Day School in Skokie. Anne and her husband, Jerry, lived in Israel for three years, 1972 – 75 and remain ardent supporters of Israel, loving the people and the land. Whenever possible, Anne travels back to Israel, either with family or as staff on teen trips. Since Anne joined Temple Jeremiah, she has been active in the Chicago area Jewish community, creating meaningful, caring relationships that not only have enriched her life, but have enriched our Center for Learning at Temple Jeremiah. She is currently serving on the Rabbinic, Educator, Cantor Advisory committee for OSRUI, and has been on the camp faculty since 1981. In 1990, Anne received her Reform Jewish Education certification, the highest degree of recognition that an education director can receive at the national level under the auspices of the Union for Reform Judaism (URJ). The Community Foundation for Jewish Education and the Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Chicago honored Dr. Lidsky with the Alexander M. Dushkin Distinguished Educator Award. In addition, she was chosen in 1998 as one of the recipients of the Covenant Foundation Award, officially presented in Washington, D.C. Designed to honor outstanding Jewish educators, the Covenant Foundation is centered in New York and was established by the Crown Family Foundation in partnership with the Jewish Education Service of North America. The Covenant Foundation Award, sought after by over 400 applicants a year, is the most prestigious award that a Jewish educator can receive in the United States or Canada. Since only one to three individuals in North America can receive this award each year, most educators never attain this honor in a lifetime of devoted work. Anne was the first in Illinois to ever receive the Covenant Award. Dr. Lidsky has served two terms as the president of the Chicago Association of Reform Jewish Education. She brings honor to this congregation and to the entire Chicago Jewish community, devoted to the children and their families at Temple Jeremiah. Anne and Jerry live in Northbrook and have two married daughters/sons-in-law and five beloved grandchildren.

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